Welcome to the second week of my new study series! Once a week I will be unpacking each verse, and sharing tips and tricks, as well as Biblical encouragement to help all of us work on that particular skill or trait.
I am so excited to be personally working on being a better wife and homemaker, so I hope you will join in with me! If you have not done so already, I encourage you to read Proverbs 31:10-31.
This week we are focussing on verses 11-12, but mainly verse 11. Once again, I am using the NASB translation which is featured in the graphic above, so your bible may say it slightly different.
When reading these verses I began to wonder what exactly does it mean to be trustworthy? Like last week when broke down what the word excellent means, I decided to compare the dictionary definitions with scripture. Here is what several online sources say:
- sound judgement
- genuine concerns for another’s well being
- someone who can be relied on
These are from secular dictionaries, but I noticed that all of those traits that can be used to describe a person can ALSO be said of God. If we want to be imitators of God (Ephesians 5:1-2), I’d say that we should be aiming to have the qualities that make us trustworthy.
I looked further into scripture to see what other traits and qualities would make a woman trustworthy, especially in the eyes of her husband. Here is what I came up with.
She knows scripture. How blessed is the (woman) who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked, Nor stand in the path of sinners, Nor sit in the seat of scoffers! But (her) delight is in the law of the Lord, And in His law (she) meditates day and night. Psalm 1:1-2 . A woman who can be trusted knows that the behaviours of the world are usually sinful and displeasing to God, so she takes pleasure in having a relationship with Him. She also yearns to please God and studies the Bible in order to help her do so.
She trusts God. Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding. Proverbs 3:5. If she puts her trust in Him, she shows that she acknowledges his supremacy, therefore her judgement is likely more sound since she is always in communication with God.
She sees that her family and her home need to be priorities in her life. She is boisterous and rebellious, her feet do not remain at home…Proverbs 7:10. This verse refers to a harlot, but I chose it here because I thought it was a good contrast to the kind of behaviour we as wives should be working on. We should want to be at home, caring for it and our loved ones, instead of feeling restlessness and discontent, which may cause us to stray from our God-given role.
She chooses her words wisely, even in angry situations. A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1. I am not a shouting person, but when I get angry or upset I tend to be very sarcastic and abrupt. This is a behaviour I constantly need to work on, especially when it happens with my husband. When we are angry, it is easy to speak without thinking, but a trustworthy woman is always careful of her words, even when angry or upset. If she is mindful, she is less likely to say something she will regret later, which means her words can be trusted as honest and true.
She is willing to learn or to teach. Incline your ear and hear the words of the wise, and apply your mind to my knowledge…Proverbs 27:17. There are always opportunities and ways to continue learning about God and the Bible, and a trustworthy woman is willing and eager to learn. I have talked about Titus 2:3-5 before, and how we should be taking those instructions seriously, so I won’t go into great detail again. But I will say that a trustworthy woman knows that she should be passing on her knowledge, wisdom, and skills to other women in order to help them be better wives and Christians.
I hope you enjoyed and benefited from this week’s post. I’d love to hear your comments on this passage of scripture!