Last month I received a little insert in my church bulletin that I knew I’d have to share here. The title of this article is called “What does it look like to have a Christ-centered home?” and is taken from the book “Complete Guide to the First Five Years of Marriage” which I have not read. Honestly, I just liked this article so much, and I thought some of you might enjoy it too, which is why I decided to share it!
To begin, I’ll share my thoughts on why it’s important to have a home focussed on God.
The atmosphere of our home sets the tones for all other aspects of our life. If our home is one of hostility, anger, selfishness, etc, we are likely going to carry that behaviour with us wherever we go. Those are not Christ-like attributes, so we as Christians should not aspire to be that way. But if we aim to create a home where God is number one, we can live a life that sets us apart as Christians. We are called to be “doers of the Word” in James 1:22, which means we are to strive to live biblically. Creating a Christ-centered home can equip us with the behaviours and skills we need to do so!
So how can we create a Christ-centered home? Here are five tips that I have paraphrased from the original article.
- A Christ-centered home is happy. Having a happy home means you are present both physically and mentally. When you or your spouse are at work, your focus should be on the tasks there. But when it’s time to be at home, the focus MUST shift to family and spending time together. It can be hard to find happiness in your home if you or your spouse is working or sidetracked instead of enjoying being with family. A happy home is also simple, and not chaotic. You have the opportunity to talk, share your day, and just enjoy each other’s company.
- A Christ-centered home is gracious. Our home shouldn’t be a place where we only settle for perfection, and nothing less. It should be a place where it’s alright to make a mistake because our family shows grace and forgiveness and Christ did towards us. There is so much pressure from society to constantly be the best, but what’s important is trying our personal best according to the talents and abilities God has given each of us. A gracious home avoids criticism and mean comments, and instead focuses on noticing and encouraging efforts.
- A Christ-centered home is a place of service. Parents undoubtedly practice service towards their children, but what about couples without kids? How can we have a servant’s heart in our home? We should be consistently looking for ways to serve our spouse, and it should become second nature for us.
- A Christ-centered home practices spiritual discipline. Your home should be the place your family strengthens their relationships with God, through studying the Bible and praying. When you learn to make Him your priority you learn to love life more simply. Your life isn’t cluttered with things that waste your time and money because you understand that those are gifts God has given and must be used wisely.
- A Christ-centered home is based on God’s purpose for you. Families who put God first are drive by the hope of seeing Jesus one day. They avoid focussing on worldly pleasures because they know life here on Earth is only temporary and those things don’t matter.
It’s my personal belief that our Christian homes can also serve as a mission field for our unsaved family and friends. When the Holy Spirit dwells in you, He will be wherever you are, guiding your thoughts and actions. If we aim to create a home that consistently strives to keep God the priority, people WILL notice! They might not be able to put their finger on what makes our home different, but they will know it is.
I hope this post encourages you!