further thoughts on marital submission according to the Bible (part two)

Back in June I wrote a post on marital submission and what the Bible says about it.  That post was one of my more popular.  It is a topic I feel strongly about, and am happy to discuss with whomever is interested.  Even though it is a Biblical concept, many Christians chose to ignore it for whatever reason.  My hope with this mini series is to shed some light on why submission is important in marriages today.  These are short posts, so you won’t be overloaded with a lot of reading to do.

Here is the link to the original post if you wanted a refresher. 

If you struggle to grasp the idea of Biblical submission to your husband, I hope that you will at least consider it with an open mind.

If we agree that submission in marriage is a valid Biblical command and teaching in present day, how do we respond to it? In 2 John 1:6 we are told that following the commands of God is one of the ways we show that we truly love Him.

“And this is love, that we walk according to His commandments. This is the commandment, just as you have heard from the beginning, that you should walk in it.”

Being submissive does not come easily for many of us! But if we view it as just another checkmark on our Christianity to-do list, can we ever really be truly submissive? Sure, we can act like we respect our husband’s authority, but if our spirit is still desiring to usurp him, are we really following God’s command?

It may not seem like it when you read my blog, but I have a strong and willful personality.  I am the typical “oldest child” and I tend to be bossy and opinionated, so I had to really work at being submissive. It certainly didn’t happen overnight, and it did take a lot of prayer, work, and Bible study for me to get where I am now (more on that in another post).

In order to submit to our husbands, we need to first submit to God. Take a look at Job 22:21, and reflect on how we can first submit to God’s will and authority over our lives.

Yield now and be at peace with Him; Thereby good will come to you. Please receive instruction from His mouth and establish His words in your heart.

I encourage you to consider the following questions for your own benefit, and it you feel comfortable sharing, please do so in the comments.

  1. What is your attitude towards submission today? And where do you want it to be?
  2. How can you personally submit to God first and foremost?

About Christina

20-something; rural dwelling; wife to David; homeowner; pretty good cook; wearer of skirts; friend to all cats.

3 comments on “further thoughts on marital submission according to the Bible (part two)

  1. What if husband is unwell, has mental health or addiction problems? Wondering what happens then? Also, what if one person, say the woman, is a more natural leader and the husband is more comfortable with her taking the lead? These are character traits that generally are well established and ingrained. Just a thought. Love your blog.

    • In the case of chronic illness, mental illness, or addiction, I think it is best to still defer to his authority. As long as he is not asking the wife to do anything sinful, that is.

      And in regards to your second question: that was me 100%. I don’t think my husband even realized his potential as a leader until I stopped trying to be one in our marriage. When I stepped back and let him lead, God did amazing things in our lives!

      Thanks for commenting and reading!

  2. What a great post !!! I am in my 50’s now and to be honest, I would say it’s only in about the last 7 – 8 years of my christian walk that I have been striving to live in submission as the Bible instructs. I know God has had a hard row to hoe when it came to me and my prideful spirit. The sad thing is, I wasn’t even aware that I was walking in pride, or that what I was believing as a christian (with regards to my lifestyle) was influenced more from the surrounding culture than from the scriptures.

    It’s too big of a story to go into how these changes came about it me, or how God exactly opened my eyes to the truths contained in His word, but all I can say is I am very grateful and thankful for it.

    For me, if I am going to follow the Lord, I’m going to do it with my whole heart. I truly believe everything contained in the Bible, that it’s inspired and all sufficient. I strive to live that truth out each day. I know the way I choose to do this may look different to how another christian woman will live it out, but all that matters to me is that I am walking in the truth I am convicted of.
    Blessings to you ~ Linda

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