Think about the kind of person you are today. How do you act when nobody is around? How do you act and speak in the company of others? I’m sure all of us can find some behaviour we would like to change about ourselves.
I think a lot of women are repelled by the idea of submitting to their husbands because they don’t want to lose their personalities and become a quiet little mouse. Even among Christians there is that negative imagery that goes with submission.
Yes, desiring to have a more submissive marriage and committing to follow God’s commands about it may change us a a wife. But is that really a bad thing?
If you are naturally outgoing and friendly, does being submissive mean you have to change that? NO! Perhaps the things that need to change are a sharp tongue, quick temper, judgemental attitude, and so on.
I am naturally inquisitive. Oftentimes my questing nature is misinterpreted as defiant, challenging, or argumentative, but really, I just like to ask questions. David has told me many times that my questioning makes him feel like I don’t trust him, so I have worked hard to control that. However, I put my inquisitiveness to good use, and am able to search out answers to questions in scripture. If someone says something that doesn’t line up with God’s Word, I am happy to dig through until I come across answers. I have also learned to rephrase my questions to David in a way that doesn’t sound challenging (“I don’t understand that, can you please explain it in simpler terms for me?”).
Read the verses below, and then think on this question: How might you change as you become a more submissive wife? If you are comfortable sharing, please do so in the comments.
“Your adornment must not be merely external–braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God. For in this way in former times the holy women also, who hoped in God, used to adorn themselves, being submissive to their own husbands…”
” Remind the people to be subject to rulers and authorities, to be obedient, to be ready to do whatever is good, 2 to slander no one, to be peaceable and considerate, and always to be gentle toward everyone.”
“Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience.”