Do you ever feel like your husband needs to “man up”? Are you being too controlling in your marriage, which is preventing him from being in the God-given role as head of the home?
In 1 Timothy 2:12, Paul (as directed by God) writes these words “But I do not allow a woman to teach or exercise authority over a man, but to remain quiet”.
This is a passage of scripture that rubs a lot of Christians the wrong way, because it says that women are not to be in a position of authority over men, especially when it comes to matter of the Bible (I don’t believe this applies to school teachers presiding over males in the school classroom, but that is just my opinion).
For context of this verse in Timothy, let’s look at 1 Corinthians 14: 34-35, which says The women are to keep silent in the churches; for they are not permitted to speak, but are to subject themselves just as the Law also says. If they desire to learn anything, let them ask their own husband at home; for it is improper for a women to speak in church.
Why would it be improper? Am I breaking the rules by making an announcement at Sunday service? Can I say hello to the greeter?
I think those kinds of speaking are fine, but challenging the Pastor or leading a discussion/actually preaching are what is referred to.
My understanding of this verse is that it would be seen as a an indication of lack of submission in marriage. It would also be dishonouring to the woman’s husband because it implies she does not respect his authority which has been given to him by God (see 1 Corinthians11:3).
But if we, as Christian wives who desire to be more submissive to our husbands, don’t believe in the authority of this verse, it is easy for us to usurp our husband’s role as head. We may naturally be a take charge, headstrong, leadership-oriented person which is all well and good, but if it is hindering our husbands, shouldn’t that be cause for concern?
I encourage us all to take an honest look at ourselves to determine if we are hindering our husband’s Biblical role as our authority.
I’ll be honest: this was a problem for me! I am naturally a decision-maker and I like to just get things done instead of taking time to think about all the pros and cons. But once again, through prayer and study I have been able to let go of my tendencies to want to control everything, and respect my husband as the decision maker.