how to begin dressing modestly

Are you interested in dressing more modestly but are unsure where to start?  Do you think it will require too much work to overhaul your wardrobe?  Are you concerned that dressing modestly means you will need to start sewing your own old fashioned clothes?

how to begin dressing modestly

If you answered YES to any of those questions, this post is for you.  I know there are ladies out there who want to make the switch to modest clothing but feel a little overwhelmed by the “rules” and all that needs to be done.  But here is a secret: it’s easier than you think!

To begin, you need to first decide what your standards for modesty are.

My suggestion is talking to your husband, parents, Pastor’s wife, etc, if you are unsure.   Everyone will have different standards, but I highly suggest spending time in prayer and discussing it with someone you trust.  You can read a bit about my modesty standards here.

Once you know what is and isn’t acceptable clothing-wise, you can start to evaluate your current wardrobe.

But instead of tossing every single inappropriate thing, ask yourself if it can be reworked to fit your modesty standards.  If a top is too low cut, can you wear a higher cut top underneath?  Maybe a well placed scarf will make it more modest, too.  If short hemlines are a concern, try an extender slip or wear a longer skirt underneath (I have done this).  If you decide pants are too immodest, consider keeping them to wear under shorter dresses (like I did in this second outfit).

Now you can make a list of any clothing items you’d like to add to your wardrobe.

Check out this list of modest wardrobe essentials and decide if they are right for you.  Take into account your climate, lifestyle, and what activities you will be doing.  I choose to wear skirts year round including in our cold Canadian winters, so thick tights and heavy skirts are my go-to items.  You might want different items if you work in an office, spend your days chasing kids, or do a lot of outdoor work.  Some items on this list might not be your style, so don’t feel like you NEED them.

Filling your wardrobe with modest pieces doesn’t have to be pricey.

Using your list as a guide, you can hit local thrift stores, Facebook buy and sell groups, consignment stores, or even your friend’s closet!  If buying brand new isn’t in your budget, you can still find great pieces to fit your modesty standards.  Stick to your list, though, or you may find yourself buying things you don’t need.

If you are unsure about how clothes will look on you, bring a trusted friend or family member who knows your modesty standards.  She can help you decide if something works or if it doesn’t.  Plus, shopping is more fun with someone else:)


I want to stress that modesty doesn’t equal frumpy!  My clothes are (hopefully) not frumpy, but I still consider myself a modest dresser.  It’s possible to follow fashion trends while dressing modestly, and to keep your personal style too!  You don’t have to start dressing in floor length dresses with collars up to your chin, unless you want to.

Helpful Links:

  1. Modest Fashion Inspiration for the “unfeminine”
  2. Winter Outfit Ideas
  3. All my fashion posts in one place
  4. All my modesty posts in one place
  5. What Modesty Isn’t
  6. Find some great modest dresses at Shabby Apple, Modcloth (you have to dig around, but there are some nice longer skirts and dresses, and Christmas is when they go on sale), and Deborah and Co (I have the denim sailor skirt).

About Christina

20-something; rural dwelling; wife to David; homeowner; pretty good cook; wearer of skirts; friend to all cats.

3 comments on “how to begin dressing modestly

  1. Lovely blog you have here and I just “discovered” it after reading another blog “Strangers and Pilgrims on Earth.” A link about “25 Fall Date Ideas” led me here and I’m so happy I found your charming blog! Thanks for sharing :-)

    ~Priscilla .W

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