Recently I learned that there is an online forum post in which Christian blogs are listed and insulted. I am not familiar with the site enough to know what else is discussed there, but a particular thread was made and members commented on various Christian blogs, that strive to create wholesome content, were picked apart. Mine was on that list. I was described as a “modesty obsessed stay at home wife”.
At first I was bewildered. I mean, why are people discussing things like this? What do they have against God-honouring blogs? I told David about it and he was angry that this had taken place. He told me not to read that post or anything else on the site, so I didn’t. After thinking about it for a bit I realized that I, too, was angry. Also confused. Hurt. Puzzled. I tried to shake it off and forget about it, but I couldn’t. The phrase modesty obsessed stay at home wife kept popping up in my mind. I thought that description of me was narrow minded, but then I realized…it was accurate. I mean, it is pretty close to my blog tagline which is “inspiration for modest fashion and Christ-centred homemaking”.
Upon thinking about it even more I began to wonder why the authors of that post meant it as an insult.
I couldn’t be upset with them, because their description of me is exactly what I strive to portray through my blog. I want people who read it to know that I value modesty as a form of respect for myself, God, and my husband. I want people to know that I am a stay at home wife who makes home a priority. It pleases me to know that my principles and values are obvious!
In case any of those ladies who wrote that comment, or participated in that thread, are reading this let me address the modesty part of your remark. What is wrong with being desiring to live and dress in a modest way? I am secure in my femininity and self confidence, so I don’t need to flaunt my body. I respect myself enough to know that I don’t need to show myself off for validation. I have respect for God, so I am not going to act or dress in ways that draw the focus to myself. I respect my husband so I am not going to dress for the attention of others.
In regards to being a stay at home wife: yes, I am one. Being the keeper of my home is a true blessing, I know. Not everyone who desires to be a homemaker is able to, but I am. I am not oppressed, or forced into this role. I truly enjoy serving God and my husband through homemaking. Yes, that is uncommon in today’s culture. But I am okay with that.
As I said before, I had all sorts of negative feelings about what had been said about me. But now I realize I can see it as a compliment, rather than an insult. It is proof that what I am doing is reaching people. There will always be those that disagree with me and what I stand for, but I know that I am doing God’s work.