My issues with feminism

This post will talk about a current issue that is all over social media.  Everybody has strong opinions about feminism and I’ll be sharing mine.  You are welcome to skip this post if you feel like it. Or you can read it.  

I recently read this article online about Mark Ruffalo and his views on feminism.  He talks about the original feminism movement that gave women the rights to vote, own property, work, etc.  Additionally, he mentions laws that were passed to protect women from abuse and harassment.  All of those feats are notable and worth mentioning.  I am certainly grateful that there were women who realized they have rights too and fought for them.  Women should have every right that men have, and I believe we do now.   So I am fully supportive of the original feminist movement, which resulted in equal rights.  What I have a problem with is the modern movement.  And I have a problem with people like Ruffalo telling me “… you know not what you speak of. You reap the rewards of these women’s sacrifices every day of your life. When you grin with your cutsey sign about how you’re not a feminist, you ignorantly spit on the sacred struggle of the past 200 years. You bite the hand that has fed you freedom, safety, and a voice.”    No, I am aware of what women had to endure to get our gender the equal rights we deserve.  But because I believe that husbands are to be the head of the home, and women with children should focus on being mothers, I’m seen as disrespecting what feminists worked hard to give me.  Correct me if I’m wrong, but wasn’t the point of feminism to give women equal rights AND the freedom of choice?  Well, my choosing to not work, stay home and take care of my house, cook my husband his meals, etc, is my choice.


The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines feminism as:  the belief that men and women should have equal rights and opportunities. Organized activity in support of women’s rights and interests. 

Women in North America (I am saying North America because I know there are other countries that have yet to regard women as equals) have equal rights now.  We can vote; own property; work; get divorced; have safe workplaces free from abuse; have access to help if we find ourselves victims of abuse or harassment.  That is what the original feminism movement gave us.  So then, what are modern feminists fighting for?

As a Christian woman, I choose to reject what society tells me I should be doing and focus on what God says through the Bible.  In Titus 2:1-8 it says You, however, must teach what is appropriate to sound doctrine. Teach the older men to be temperate, worthy of respect, self-controlled, and sound in faith, in love and in endurance.Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.Similarly, encourage the young men to be self-controlled. In everything set them an example by doing what is good. In your teaching show integrity, seriousness and soundness of speech that cannot be condemned, so that those who oppose you may be ashamed because they have nothing bad to say about us.

That bolded part confirms my belief that women should make homemaking a priority.  Being busy at home means not sitting on the couch watching Netflix all day, but ensuring their home is clean, safe, welcoming, etc. Now, I am not one to say that women shouldn’t work if they choose, but homemaking should be our higher priority. I have worked, and am currently working but I refuse to allow my house to become a disaster area. Notice that God isn’t saying men have no responsibility; they are told to be self controlled and sound in faith, love and endurance.

I mentioned before that I believe men are to be the head of their homes.  I know that causes a lot of feminists to shake their heads, but it is biblically sound.  Colossians 3:18-19 says: 18 Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.19 Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.  God isn’t saying that women need to just say yes to whatever their husbands say, He says “as is fitting to the Lord” which I interpret as “if it lines up with the Bible”.  If my husband was to say “Let’s rob a bank and flee the country with our loot” I wouldn’t nod my head and ask how I can help.  I’d say no way because Exodus 20:15 says not to steal.  But if David were to say to me “I feel like God is telling us we need to sell our home and move to another city to carry out a plan He has for us” I’d listen and prayerfully consider it.  

Ephesians 5:23 says For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Which basically means God is the head of the Church (or, followers of Christ), and husbands are the head of their wife (or, household).  There is a great, modern day commentary about why that verse is important for Christian couples, so I encourage you to read it here.  

If you have come this far in my post, I want to say thanks for being open minded enough to read my views.  You may now be wondering how those verses of the Bible tie in with feminism.  Well, I personally believe women have successfully obtained equal rights.   That’s not to say we should forget and take for granted what women fought long and hard to earn, but as Christian women I feel like we should focus more on what the Bible says our roles and duties are as women, instead of what the extreme feminists (who say all men are evil and that women are superior) say we should think and do.  Those kind of feminists say that I have the power to choose what to do with my life, but if I choose to be a homemaker I’m setting back women.   I want people to understand that my marriage isn’t one of oppression.  I chose to get married and then I chose to work.  I also chose to take on 2 jobs, only to recently quit one of them because it was keeping me from my personal life.  But when I also made the choice to consult my husband on everything, because it’s no longer my life that is affected by my actions, in our life.

I feel so strongly that my God-given purpose as a woman is to be a faithful, godly wife to my husband.  Before I was married, my purpose was to prepare for my role as a wife.  Did you know the Bible says that a man who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favour from God (Proverbs 18:22)?

What are your thoughts on modern day feminism, extreme feminists or what the Bible says about it?



About Christina

20-something; rural dwelling; wife to David; homeowner; pretty good cook; wearer of skirts; friend to all cats.

10 comments on “My issues with feminism

  1. Thank you so much for posting this. As a student at a public high school, it can be very difficult to distinguish where I stand as a Christian regarding liberal issues like feminism. I’ve been struggling with this particular topic lately, and your post has helped with my confusion. Thank you once again! I can’t wait for your future posts!

    ❤ Blaze Ann

  2. Thank you for posting this. I have been reading about feminism lately because I had been a bit confused about what it really was, and as I have some friends who support it, was wondering whether or not it was a “Christian” thing to do. This clears some things up. By the way, I thought your posts on your modesty journey were very helpful.

    • Hi Geneva, thanks for reading! I feel like feminism and Christianity need to be talked about more often, and I’m happy to do so!

      I’m glad you enjoyed my modesty series, too.


  3. This perfectly sums up what I’ve been trying to say for years. I love how you said about your freedom of choice to be a homemaker. That is brilliant. I also applaud you for making the distinction between the original feminist agenda and today’s. Bravo! Xx

  4. Actually, the agenda of feminism has always been to destroy God’s design for families. Women didn’t like the homemaking/submissive wife idea and wanted to be able to do whatever they wanted, without feeling bad about it. They just knew they could get more support by saying it was about equal rights, especially since there have always been men who’ve abused the submissive part, and it worked. It’s no wonder feminism and abortion go hand in hand. Selfishness wins over kids. It’s just more honest about the agenda now. These days it’s just more popular to go ahead and admit that you don’t care what God says, you’ll do things your own way. Sadly, this is and has always been, the true goal of feminism.

    • Actually that’s not true at all Tiffanie, not even a little. Christina’s post is 100% accurate.

      Thank you Christine for posting something which actually has some sound historical basis. While I don’t know that I agree with everything you said ( I don’t think God was just preparing me for marriage before I married for example…I also think biblical submission can work outside of just traditional roles of a woman being at home).

      Nevertheless, this is the best Christian written post I’ve seen on feminism as of late. And as a Christian historian (aspiring? I haven’t finished my PhD yet) I really appreciate it.

  5. Hi I just stumbled upon your blog. as an atheist, thanks for the level headed perspective on feminism. as much as I respect the continuation of the feminist movement for aiming to close very real gaps between men and women (anti-woman policymaking, sexism in the workplace, etc, real oppression of women in other parts of the world etc), what’s missing from a lot of the contemporary discourse is the appreciation of different female experiences such as yours; many don’t recognise that being a homemaker and being pro-woman are not mutually exclusive.
    I do have a question for you. you speak of sharing your fate with that of your husband’s which I can respect. with the example you gave, if you and not your husband suddenly had the feeling that god’s plan entailed you selling the house and moving, would that be subverting your role? sorry if you’ve addressed this in some other post or if there’s an obvious answer to this, I’m quite unfamiliar…

    • Thanks for the comment. If that situation were to arise, my husband would KNOW that God was the one behind my desire, since my husband knows how much I love this house! I would not force the issue, if my husband was not on board with it, I’d ultimately submit to his decision.

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