This post will talk about a current issue that is all over social media. Everybody has strong opinions about feminism and I’ll be sharing mine. You are welcome to skip this post if you feel like it. Or you can read it.
I recently read this article online about Mark Ruffalo and his views on feminism. He talks about the original feminism movement that gave women the rights to vote, own property, work, etc. Additionally, he mentions laws that were passed to protect women from abuse and harassment. All of those feats are notable and worth mentioning. I am certainly grateful that there were women who realized they have rights too and fought for them. Women should have every right that men have, and I believe we do now. So I am fully supportive of the original feminist movement, which resulted in equal rights. What I have a problem with is the modern movement. And I have a problem with people like Ruffalo telling me “… you know not what you speak of. You reap the rewards of these women’s sacrifices every day of your life. When you grin with your cutsey sign about how you’re not a feminist, you ignorantly spit on the sacred struggle of the past 200 years. You bite the hand that has fed you freedom, safety, and a voice.” No, I am aware of what women had to endure to get our gender the equal rights we deserve. But because I believe that husbands are to be the head of the home, and women with children should focus on being mothers, I’m seen as disrespecting what feminists worked hard to give me. Correct me if I’m wrong, but wasn’t the point of feminism to give women equal rights AND the freedom of choice? Well, my choosing to not work, stay home and take care of my house, cook my husband his meals, etc, is my choice.
The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines feminism as: the belief that men and women should have equal rights and opportunities. Organized activity in support of women’s rights and interests.
Women in North America (I am saying North America because I know there are other countries that have yet to regard women as equals) have equal rights now. We can vote; own property; work; get divorced; have safe workplaces free from abuse; have access to help if we find ourselves victims of abuse or harassment. That is what the original feminism movement gave us. So then, what are modern feminists fighting for?
As a Christian woman, I choose to reject what society tells me I should be doing and focus on what God says through the Bible. In Titus 2:1-8 it says You, however, must teach what is appropriate to sound doctrine. 2 Teach the older men to be temperate, worthy of respect, self-controlled, and sound in faith, in love and in endurance.3 Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. 4 Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, 5 to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.6 Similarly, encourage the young men to be self-controlled. 7 In everything set them an example by doing what is good. In your teaching show integrity, seriousness 8 and soundness of speech that cannot be condemned, so that those who oppose you may be ashamed because they have nothing bad to say about us.
That bolded part confirms my belief that women should make homemaking a priority. Being busy at home means not sitting on the couch watching Netflix all day, but ensuring their home is clean, safe, welcoming, etc. Now, I am not one to say that women shouldn’t work if they choose, but homemaking should be our higher priority. I have worked, and am currently working but I refuse to allow my house to become a disaster area. Notice that God isn’t saying men have no responsibility; they are told to be self controlled and sound in faith, love and endurance.
I mentioned before that I believe men are to be the head of their homes. I know that causes a lot of feminists to shake their heads, but it is biblically sound. Colossians 3:18-19 says: 18 Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.19 Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them. God isn’t saying that women need to just say yes to whatever their husbands say, He says “as is fitting to the Lord” which I interpret as “if it lines up with the Bible”. If my husband was to say “Let’s rob a bank and flee the country with our loot” I wouldn’t nod my head and ask how I can help. I’d say no way because Exodus 20:15 says not to steal. But if David were to say to me “I feel like God is telling us we need to sell our home and move to another city to carry out a plan He has for us” I’d listen and prayerfully consider it.
Ephesians 5:23 says For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Which basically means God is the head of the Church (or, followers of Christ), and husbands are the head of their wife (or, household). There is a great, modern day commentary about why that verse is important for Christian couples, so I encourage you to read it here.
If you have come this far in my post, I want to say thanks for being open minded enough to read my views. You may now be wondering how those verses of the Bible tie in with feminism. Well, I personally believe women have successfully obtained equal rights. That’s not to say we should forget and take for granted what women fought long and hard to earn, but as Christian women I feel like we should focus more on what the Bible says our roles and duties are as women, instead of what the extreme feminists (who say all men are evil and that women are superior) say we should think and do. Those kind of feminists say that I have the power to choose what to do with my life, but if I choose to be a homemaker I’m setting back women. I want people to understand that my marriage isn’t one of oppression. I chose to get married and then I chose to work. I also chose to take on 2 jobs, only to recently quit one of them because it was keeping me from my personal life. But when I also made the choice to consult my husband on everything, because it’s no longer my life that is affected by my actions, in our life.
I feel so strongly that my God-given purpose as a woman is to be a faithful, godly wife to my husband. Before I was married, my purpose was to prepare for my role as a wife. Did you know the Bible says that a man who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favour from God (Proverbs 18:22)?
What are your thoughts on modern day feminism, extreme feminists or what the Bible says about it?